Honesty

It’s refreshing, right? When someone is honest. They speak from the heart and you’re moved by their honesty. I appreciate that kind of honesty. Or does someone pouring out their heart to you make you uncomfortable?

Do you remember that post about oversharing? Yeah, I broke my own rules and overshared. It was at that event I mentioned in my swept up item a few days ago. It was a public open house for the people in the neighborhood on Main and the entire cross streets from 15 to a zillion to inform them about a proposed burn fund building. The burn fund and other involved parties hosted and they did a smashing job. It was organized, very personable, and hopefully made the neighbors feel welcome.

There was much mingling going on and I decided to catch up with my former doctors. In particular one. He is kind. So kind that he asked me polite questions about me and my family. So kind to ask me about Scott and “what kind of work does he do”? So kind that he listened to me and nodded his head while I went on and on about the business, how Scott and I are opposites, that I freak out all the time although not so much lately, and how all of it is an adventure, I think. He was so kind. There was another doctor there who was roped into my rambling because he just happened to be standing there. He was doing that polite smile thing. After I took a breath I realized what I was doing and I said, “Well, I guess I just gave you a whole lot of insight into my life.” He said, “No, no. It’s interesting….” So kind.

To be clear I wasn’t railing against Scott. Not at all. It’s just that I was talking to him like I would talk to one of my girlfriends. This lovely man doctor took care of me day after day during my stay in the hospital. He performed a ridiculous amount of surgeries on me. He saw me naked. These are the things I know about him. That’s it. Oh, I did find out a few months ago that he is married and has been for years. That is the only personal thing I know about him. He now knows almost everything about me.

Swept Up

In Karma On Canvas
This artist, Melanie Frost Higgins, has some beautiful paintings (which you can view on her website) that you can own or rent. It is great to own, but I love that you have the option to rent. A portion of what you spend goes to various charities. I love that!

She says this, “The difference between changing the world and defeat by her travesties is to recognize that tolerance is optional. I’ve come to learn tolerance is not one of my options.”

The painting shown here is painted by Melanie Frost Higgins.

2 thoughts on “Honesty

  1. Suz @ Alive in Wonderland

    Wow. You are an excellent writer.
    I am going to use the phrase “oversharing” from now on, it’s perfect. I too, tend to talk…talk talk talk. Sometimes just to avoid a dreadful pause. But, filling the air with my life isn’t the best use of its lessons, fragility, and meaningfulness.
    Great post.
    Suz

  2. Heidi

    suz, hello! And thank you!
    To be fair I didn’t come up with oversharing all on my own. I read about this phenomenon in Entertainment Weekly. I loved the term and have used it and lived it since then.

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