Good Mother

My mom spent a few days with me when my car got stuck and I was going crazy with cabin fever trapped in my house. My mom rarely sits still. She helps, cooks, cleans and there is still more to do. My mom has always been like this. She will stop for a cup of coffee and just as the conversation is getting good she is onto the next task.

I love my mom.

I gave up on having long drawn out conversations or having mother/daughter shopping trips long ago. My mother’s love comes in help and generosity. In her never give up spirit.

She still knows my needs before I know them. She still reminds me to wear a coat and immediately passes me the ibuprofen when I get a headache. When I get too quiet and lose my personality she knows it’s because I’m hungry. Every once in a while she’ll slip me a twenty for no reason at all. She’ll give me advice I need and don’t need. Sometimes I roll my eyes like I’m fifteen and get impatient and my mom still believes I can be anything I want to be.

She hasn’t had an easy life. She has it harder than most and I won’t get into all the reasons why. I often think there is a special place in heaven for my mom when she leaves this earth.

As a child I witnessed my mom’s mistakes and guilt trips and I thought I’ll do better. I was wrong. I grew up, got married, had kids and make mistakes and lose my temper. It’s so easy to idealize motherhood when you’re little and you don’t know how hard it is. I didn’t have the mother of my dreams. I had something better.

My mom kept me safe. She gave up her bed for me when my eight year old self was plagued with recurring nightmares. She almost always knew what was best for me. My mom is a good mother. She always has been. She is the reason I’m strong.

Does anyone remember a song by Jann Arden called Good Mother? I first heard it…oh, ages ago now…and, anyway, here are some of the lyrics.

I’ve got money in my pocket,
I like the color of my hair.

I’ve got a friend who loves me,

Got a house, I’ve got a car.

I’ve got a good mother,

and her voice is what keeps me here.

Feet on ground,
Heart in hand,
Facing forward,

Be yourself….

Swept Up


In Returning Favorite TV Shows
If you haven’t guessed I’m a TV freak! Good TV that is. Well, what I deem to be good TV anyway.
Lost returns next week!! Friday Night Lights returns and if you haven’t seen this show give it a try. Give it 3 episodes and start at the first season. NBC does stupid things like try to make this show all glossy in their promos, but it isn’t a glossy show. It is a down to earth you will fall in love with the coach and his wife why haven’t they won their Emmys yet kind of show. I don’t give a rat’s ass about football and I completely fell in love with this show. It is about far more than teenagers and football. It has depth and heart and its back on the 16th!! Big Love is back on the 18th. The women on this show are nothing short of amazing.

17 thoughts on “Good Mother

  1. kendalee

    What a lovely tribute to your mom!

    So much of this rang true for me too (and made me smile) so I think my mother was cast from the same or a very similar mold as yours! Aren’t we lucky?

    I’ve always loved mine beyond measure but the older I get, the more I appreciate how truly remarkable she is – and has always been – and just how much I owe her.

  2. Linda Sue

    I love your mom! Giving giving giving lovely mom!
    Oh I am so excited BIG LOVE my fave since six feet under went under! Can’t wait- I am reading Carolyn Jessop’s book at the moment- so F-ing weird! Yay, Big love- what is going to happen this year- probably another wife- the Russian one don’t you think?

  3. dawn

    your mom sounds great. i never had a mom i could depend on in any way. but i try so hard to be the kind of mom that my daughter can depend on and the kind of mom that’s human. i make mistakes. lots of them. but i keep getting up, brushing myself off and moving forward.

    btw…not sure if you’re a tim roth fan or not, but i am a big fan of his, and he is in a new show starting on the 21st at 9p on FOX. it’s called “lie to me”. worth checking out i think!

  4. you gotta wonder

    Another beautiful, thought-provoking post. It’s a wonderful tribute to someone who clearly did an outstanding job in raising you.

  5. Heidi

    kendalee, it’s true – the older I get the more appreciative I get. we’re lucky to have such great moms. 🙂

    linda sue, someone else that likes this show!! I loved last season so much, so this one should be very interesting. ah, polygamy…it makes for such good tv.

    dawn, i’m sorry to hear that. i’m sure you’re a good mom to your daughter…i see those posts…you can’t make up that kind of thing.:)

    i have not heard of this show. i’ll check it out.

    you gotta wonder, thank you. she is a wonderful woman.

    tiff, thank you. you’re an amazing mum…truly.

  6. Kate Coveny Hood

    My mom is my hero. The most courageous woman I know. I hope that I can be half the mother she is. Your mom sounds wonderful.

  7. Maggie, Dammit

    OK, don’t get me started on how Friday Night Lights is the BEST SHOW EVER and how ANGRY I am that nobody seems to realize this and the fact that season four is very likely not going to happen is keeping me up nights and by the way, I have DirecTV so I’ve already seen season three and if you give me money I will tell you what happens and I would leave my husband for Tim Riggins.

    I told you not to get me started.

    This was beautiful about your mom.

  8. Heidi

    lisa, thank you. i always feel like i’m about 16 when she does that and i always say things like, no mom. you don’t need to do that. but, she won’t take no for an answer.

    kch, i feel the same way. i still don’t know how she managed everything when my brothers and I were little.

    maggie, you don’t know how happy this makes me!! a good friend of mine got me hooked and we try to spread the word, but everybody’s all oh it’s a show about football. it’s so misunderstood!! yeah…i’m a little crazy about fnl. and…ummm…yeah…i’m with you on tim riggins. swoon. seriously.

  9. Suz Broughton

    This was truly a beautiful post about your mom. I just kept picturing my mom when you were describing yours. Isn’t it nice to be at an age where we can appreciate your mom and everything she has done for you?

  10. Heidi

    suz, yes it really is…and then watching her be grandma or oma as she’s called is something else.

  11. Live More Now (LMN)

    That is beautiful – I love the lines at the end. (About sweet mom, not Lost, even though I am now officially a huge fan of LOST). 🙂

    Happy end of weekend to you. Hallelujah for good moms, however long or short we may have them here with us.

  12. Heidi

    lmn, thank you. lost next week…i’m so excited and hoping i can remember everything that happened last season so i know what’s going on this season!

    mrs.R, i love, love the coach. sigh.

  13. amisare waswerebeen

    Were we separated at birth? I swear, you just described my mom to a T. Words fail to express how precious she has become to me over the years.

    Thanks for your words of encouragement lately. I’m sorry I’ve been slow to respond, so much going on. I appreciate them and enjoy reading about your blessed life.

  14. Heidi

    amisare, please don’t be sorry. life gets hectic and crazy and i didn’t expect a response. 🙂
    you’re just so lovely!

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