I talked about this a little in the post that has been laid to rest. This thing of survivor versus victim. It’s the common thread in the talks I’ve given. The entire speech hinges on the choice of whether we’ll live our lives as victims or survivors.
How will you live this life? What do you want your story to be? Those are the questions I ask not only of the audience, but of me. I write these speeches for me as much as anyone else. Will I be a victim of my circumstances or will I emerge a fighter; because it’s in the fight that we become survivors. It may take only one step, but it’s one step closer to possibility. One step closer from what was to what will be. It’s the fight that reminds us that blood runs through our veins, that we are not done yet and we can do this…whatever this is. We can.
Our stories are not just made up of tragic events and change and difficult circumstances. There’s so much in between and after. We get to, dare I say, narrate our stories. We get to make them rich and full. We get to inject color and love our families and notice how beautiful the stars are on a dark, dark night. We can create and fill in and subtract. I know we don’t always get to choose. I get that. There are some things that are beyond our control. But, we aren’t powerless. How will we get through this? How will we live? Our life is in our hands. What do we want our stories to be?
I am always learning. Just when I think I understand something it is turned upside down. I respect that about life. I love deeply. I am afraid, but fear doesn’t paralyze me. I have faith in the unseen. I’m unsure but I want to try anyway. I am hopeful. I laugh even in unfunny situations. I will never stop asking questions. I want to stay true to who I am and to the people around me. I will do my best to make good choices. I’ll always want more and it doesn’t mean I’m without peace or contentment. I am a survivor. And this is my story.
In Anastasia Photography
I have sung the praises of Stace’s photography here before. Her photographs draw you in and tell a story. If you’ve had the privilege of having her as your photographer you’ll know what I’m talking about when I say how good she is with people, how she makes you feel so at ease and it’s how she sees beauty that grabs you. Here are only a few of her photographs. To narrow it down to just a few was hard! (The first one is of our friends’ and neighbors’ girls.) Her blog is full of beautiful photographs and she has a Mother’s
Day gift idea going on, so, go! Check out her blog!