Category Archives: my love for tv

the post in which I ramble

It’s been forever. I had so many promising beginnings, so many on-the-cusp-of-genius posts and then a text popped up, a snack must be made, a floor needed to be swept. Urgent pleas to register for soccer filled up my inbox. Dance competitions and extra practices needed to be attended. A child wanted my computer, sometimes for homework, but mostly for minecraft. Speaking of minecraft, here is a must read for any parent whose children suffer from minecraft addiction. Good Lord, help us all.

I am working on book stuff, people. Book stuff! That means it’s so close. So close I can almost smell that new book smell. Hear the turn of the pages. I’ll have a sneak peek for you soon. My very first chapter of Fancy Feet, the book, coming your way!

I had great intentions of being around more, of writing more. Just a couple of months ago I made declarations of how I was back. Do you remember that post? It’s embarrassing now because I didn’t follow through. I meant to, I wanted to. What bothers me more is that I haven’t been to your spaces nearly enough; read your wise, soulful and funny words. Please don’t think I’ve forgotten or that I don’t care. I had no idea how consuming it would be to edit and edit and edit a manuscript or how weepy I would become after digging up my feelings surrounding the other driver or how exhausted I would be afterward when I was done, finally done, everything. When I read the email from my publisher that said “edits are accepted”, I joy-cried for 30 seconds and then, bleary-eyed, I binge-watched TV shows. I discovered Scandal. Scandal is super addictive. The Fitz and Olivia of it all, Defiance, the mole – I could not stop watching this show. In my TV fog, I had questions for my other shows like what is going on with Don Draper, the man with no redeeming values? Should I continue to watch The Killing? TV was a welcome distraction after being so in touch with my feelings for a very long time. What I’m trying to say is that I hadn’t counted on having to let some things go for a while because I can’t do it all.

It is almost the end of the school year and I feel the need to make a speech, thanking those around me who got me this far. To all the moms who understood and didn’t judge me or judged, but never to my face, when I forgot about a field trip or didn’t bring empty bottles, egg cartons or yogurt containers. To Scott for being the voice of un-crazy after I explained how I would be a total failure. To coffee for giving me a personality. To wine – cheers. To my friends who love me anyway. To Target where I can wander freely and aimlessly. To me for making lunches Monday to Friday from September to June…I am a marvel. To you guys, who have been here and are still here…thank you.

By the way, you can now subscribe to my blog by email. That’s for you, Julie Gardner!


distraction (pain management)

The doctors and their students were next. They would make their rounds at the burn unit checking in with each of their patients. I was in Room 1, the isolation room. I was usually seen last. Sometimes I would wield my patient seniority and request they see me first. I wanted to have seven pairs of eyes of seven strangers seeing me naked and hardly at my best over with quickly.

“How are you doing today, Heidi? What’s your pain like on a scale of 1 to 10?” I was asked this each day. I gave it a beat of thought before I measured my pain and doled out my answer. Seven was my standard answer. Not too high, not too low. For the first three months I was in considerable pain even with my friend morphine, so, I stood by seven, my go-to number.

I was inspected and checked off, prodded and whispered about. I only spoke if I had a question. I tuned their white coats out and willed them away, staring longingly at my TV. They were good to me, doing their job, but I was reeling from the small army of nurses. I was still catching my breath. And I was naked. My injuries couldn’t be guessed at and the precarious skin grafts weren’t a hypothetical. They needed to get close. I was told that when I was given showers while anesthetized the nurses would strategically place cloths over me as they washed me. I laughed when Catherine, one of my nurses, relayed the conversation had with a doctor present at the shower. He was puzzled as to why they were doing this. Her response was defensive saying, “Heidi is very modest. We’re trying to give her some dignity.” Personal space was a luxury one didn’t have at a hospital and I quickly gave in to the fact that I would be seen without a stitch of clothing on regularly and not over a glass of wine.

Once everyone filed out and I wasn’t slotted in for surgery I filled my day with distraction.

Books were brought, but I was too weak to hold a book most of the time and too fragile to read some of what was sent my way. I suppose Christian literature and Christian fiction were meant to cheer me up, but I couldn’t take happy endings and girls with heavy hearts weighing their options only to always come to the right decision after seeking the Lord, their problems simply sliding off their shoulders as soon as they gave them up to Jesus. I counted myself among those who believed, but syrupy, spoon fed Christianity wasn’t going to cure what was ailing me.

I had TV to look forward to. I used to be too busy to watch TV and now I had more time than anyone needed. I hadn’t watched Young and the Restless since I was a girl with my mom. The characters were still here years later. Victor, Nicky, the Abbotts. I picked up where I left off eight years ago. Nothing had really changed in Genoa City. I caught up on Seinfeld and Friends. I watched a travel show religiously. It was on each morning at ten. I never missed an episode. I traveled to India, Israel, Morocco, Thailand… I stayed in out of the way bed and breakfasts, rode on gondolas and tried the local food. TV was my solace, my reprieve. I didn’t have to think. I avoided anything that made me feel too much. I didn’t want sappy or anything emotionally charged.

The resident psychologist popped into my room from time to time. It was mandatory that he be there, but I had nothing to say to him. What could I say? Well, dude, I’ve lost my feet and what I knew to be my life and my twenty three year old self is nothing short of a disaster. Clearly, this sucks. He asked the obligatory questions met with my obligatory answers until time was up.

My goal each day was not to make sense of what happened or even mourn my losses. My goal was to make it through each hour, each day, each month and reach the other side. It was to get through. My goal was survival.

Sorry the posts are few and far between. It might continue this way for a little while, for this month anyway. Christmas is barreling towards me and I have a LOT to do.

To add to this: I know these posts end rather abruptly and not all neat and tidy. I pick up where I leave off each time I submit a post, so what I’m trying to say is it’s best to look at these posts as part of a whole. Every post should pretty much end with a ‘to be continued…’